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  • Activity

    Guest Post By: Brent Widman

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    Activity is the root of what drives our business. Without activity in the sales world, we don’t have a business. What this truly comes down to is making phone calls. Making those dials that you don’t always want to make, but you know you have to. This isn’t busy being busy. This is being planned, prepped and prepared about who you are going to talk to.

    1. Stop calling the same people over and over again. Don’t hold onto this false sense of hope that someone might do business with you.
    2. You build your business through new people. Where do those new people come from? Referrals, Linked In, Past Clients, Current Clients, etc, etc.
    3. Set up a plan. Know the first 5, 10 or 20+ people you know you are going to call. Have it done the night before or in the morning. It will get you in the right mind set.
    4. Practice. It takes 2 minutes. Practice in the car, working out, in the morning, at night, take a walk, whatever it takes. Take that little bit of time to know what you are going to say. It will get you past the call reluctance
    5. It’s just one call, to them. To you, it’s 10, 20, 30 or 100 calls. But to them, it’s just one call. Don’t overthink it.
    6. If you are truly trying to help people you won’t think about getting rejected. They might say yes, they might say no, so what. You are helping them either way. It’s hard to be nervous when your heart is on service.
    7. Have fun. Phoning and activity does not have to be hard. Stand up, sit down, dance, laugh, say something off the wall. It doesn’t always have to be straight to the point and serious.
    8. The people on the other end of the phone are people just like you. You aren’t going to close everyone, but you can still have a conversation. That will go a long way to calling them in the future.
    9. In most cases, no means “not right now.” Set them out a year, two years or even three. That’s okay, keep them in your system and in your pipeline for the future.
    10. Get after it. When you do the activity it will breed results. When you make excuses it will not. You can’t get mad at the results if you aren’t putting in the activity.

    I hear so many people feel that they are above calling. They get away from what makes them successful. I was coaching a Managing Director the other day and he flat out said, “These are all the things I know I should be doing but I’m not, it’s like I’m a new rep again.” All that means… we can’t get away from what got us there in the first place. It doesn’t have to be the 50 dials a day, maybe for

    All that means is that we can’t get away from what got us there in the first place. It doesn’t have to be the 50 dials a day, maybe for you, it’s 10. It will get you the results you are looking for.

    Stay true to your activity. It only makes you better.

     

    Brent Widman has over 10 years experience in all aspects of sales. He is a professional sales coach at Southwestern Consulting. Brent has expertise in lead generation, prospecting, selling to top execs and the art of follow up. He has worked with numerous individuals to improve their sales processes, day to day interaction and ultimately them as a person. He is a former division director, sales director and district manager for distinguished sales teams in the recruiting, fitness and communications world.


  • The Two Biggest Scheduling Mistakes That Ruin Productivity – Part 2

    Guest Post By: Kitty Barrow

    In my last post we talked about my client who was struggling with productivity and as a result, his sales were suffering. After analyzing his schedule I discovered that he was making two very common scheduling mistakes that were ruining his productivity. In the first blog, we covered his first mistake; his schedule wasn’t ‘real’.

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    In this post, we are going to talk about his second big mistake.

    He wasn’t setting aside time for ramping up or ramping down.

    Our brains like to do as little thinking as possible. When we make our brains do a lot of heavy thinking all day long, we find that we are typically EXHAUSTED at the end of every day.

    Ramp-up time is an amazing cure for exhaustion! It will also help you to come across as a well prepared professional.

    What is Ramp-up time?

    It is 30 minutes to an hour that you SCHEDULE into the beginning of your day. (I typically do my Ramp-up time beginning at 7 or 7:30 AM). During this time, you look at the appointments you have for the day and prepare for them mentally and physically.

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    • Then you prepare the list of everyone you will call for the day (PERK if you go ahead and put them in the order that you would like to call them)

    ♦ Look at your appointments

    • Prepare any information you will need to have with you. Review your notes from the last meeting so you can plan out any information that will need to be top of mind.
    • Think of any questions you need answered and plan how you would like the end of the meeting to go.
    • Is there anyone who needs to be included or updated about this meeting?
    • Is there information that you still need from someone else in order to be prepared for this meeting?

    As a Coach, what I typically see instead are a lot of sales people and leaders who are running from event to event. They aren’t prepared because they haven’t taken the time to thoroughly think through their day. This can result in our prospects and team members thinking we don’t care about them or their business and we don’t truly know what we are doing.

    Are you wondering why your prospects/clients aren’t calling you back? Are you wondering why people are canceling meetings on you? Are you wondering why you lost a big deal that you thought was in the bag? Can you look back and know that you have been fully prepared and thus fully present for these people? Everyone wants to feel important. Are you showing your people that they are important by being completely prepared?

    What is Ramp-down time?

    It is the 30 minutes you take to clear off your ‘to-do’ list before you head out the door.

    ♦  During the day, when someone is trying to distract me, then I do 1 of 3 things:

    •  Start an email to the appropriate person and enter enough in the subject line so that I will remember what I wanted to email          them about. Hit ‘save’ and then minimize it
    • Jot down a note on my daily ‘to-do’ list
    • If it is something that I want to remember to discuss with someone who I have an appointment with on my Outlook calendar or cover/discuss at a meeting that is coming up in my Outlook calendar, then I open a calendar appointment NEXT to the appropriate appointment and make a note of what I want to remember to cover/discuss, hit save and close it. Now, when I am doing my ramp-up time, it will be easy for me to remember anything important for those meetings.

    ♦  For Ramp-down time, at the end of the day, I:

    • Open up my minimized emails one at a time, finish the email and send it
    • Handle what can be immediately handled off of my ‘to-do’ list
    • Anything that can’t be handled immediately, then I will find a place in my Outlook schedule when I will handle it, create a calendar appointment for it, save and close. (As my business Partner Sales Coach Dew likes to say, if it isn’t important enough to be in your calendar, then it isn’t important enough to do.

    Once your mind is prepared through Ramp-up time and cleared through Ramp-down time, you are equipped to handle your day and whatever it may throw at you. You are giving your brain a break because it isn’t working so hard to stay in ‘reaction’ mode all day. This means at the end of the day you are energized and ready to be present with your family and friends, thus enjoying your life a whole lot more.

    Don’t forget to go back and read about mistake number one if you haven’t already. Then try applying these two solutions to your schedule every week and let me know what kind of a difference it makes for you!

     

    Kitty Barrow is a Senior Partner and Executive Sales and Leadership Coach of Southwestern Consulting. She specializes in creating successful systems that are easily duplicated. Her motto is “Keep Things Simple for Stress-less Selling.” Kitty has trained thousands of sales professionals in companies such as Wells Fargo, MassMutual, New York Life, Xerox Global and Allstate


  • The Secret of Being Enthusiastic

    Guest Post By: Dave Brown

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    In 6th grade I did my first ever speech competition. I did it because of Mrs. Bridges. She signed me up, without me knowing, and said, “Dave, you’re going to be phenomenal at it.”

    The speech I was doing was titled, “How The Camel Got It’s Hump.” I remember it was my first year in middle school down in Texas and I was competing with 7th and 8th graders who had already done this. I was scared! But Mrs. Bridges told me I had a “secret.” She was sure I was going to beat them with that secret.  She was going to teach me how to have enthusiasm.

    She knew that if I showed the energy and my enthusiastic nature I would catch the judges and win first place. So, that is what I will talk to you about today, because I still use that each day!

    Enthusiasm is contagious. It makes the improbable, probable. Do you think I won that speech competition?!

    WELL OF COURSE I DID!!! I took a first place win as a 6th grader, and the first one at that age level to do so!

    I used what Mrs. Bridges taught me from there and it stuck with me. I got into sports and every chance I had, I was getting my team powered up! I had better experiences and let that carry throughout my college career as an athlete. It’s so important!

    It’s also so important in the sales environment. People pick up on it! Whenever you have enthusiasm in place, you can do anything!

    Here is something I keep on me from Frank Bettger’s book, “How I Raised Myself from Failure to Success in Selling.”

    “Force yourself to act enthusiastic, and you will become enthusiastic. Make a high and holy resolve that you will double the amount of enthusiasm you have put out in your life and in your work. If you carry out that resolve you will probably double your income and double your happiness.”

    Your prospects will catch your enthusiasm! Show it, put it out there! Tell me about your scenarios and how you’ve seen a difference in your work and life by using this secret. Tweet me @davebrown_swc, comment here, or connect on LinkedIn.

    GO OUT THERE AND BE AWESOME YA’LL … (in my most enthusiastic voice!)

    Dave Brown is a senior partner and executive level coach at Southwestern Consulting and author of the upcoming book Painless Prospecting. Dave was a record breaking salesman for Southwestern Advantage, knocking on over 50,000 doors before the age of 25. He has spoken and trained over 100,000 sales professionals across the globe with Southwestern Consulting.


  • Permission to Proceed

    Guest Post By: Dave Brown

    Screen-Shot-2016-04-26-at-10.17.31-AMThis is something that is overlooked quite a bit. It’s one that I take the time to really look at this when I’m helping other people grow in prospecting.

    You know when you’re having that rocky conversation with someone at first. You haven’t had a chance to set up that cadence. You may be talking over each other, or have long awkward pauses, it’s really just no fun at all. Are you looking for a solution for that? Here it is…

    Ask for permission to proceed!

    Literally, you ask them to grant you permission to proceed in the conversation on your phone call. Right up front, after you’ve done the names and connected, and you’re about to give the prospecting buying atmosphere, you have to have this question in there. It’s basically asking for a specified amount of time, and you get them to confirm they are able to give you that time so they are open and receptive with you.

    Example, “Hey John, this is Dave, I’ve been doing some work with Beth over at Zee Company. They’ve been doing a lot of great things, so I just wanted to run this by you. It’s a good one, do you have a few minutes?”

    Connect with the names, ask to run something by them, confirm some time, then go right in to your prospecting and buying atmosphere.

    Some more ways to ask, “Can you talk for 3 minutes? Did I catch you at a good time to run something by you? Do you have like 97 seconds for this? Are you ready for my audition?”

    Whatever it may be, get creative, just ask for that time. It may be 5 minutes, it may be 2, but let them grant you permission to proceed. Don’t look by this, and when they try to speed you up, that is when you ask to confirm a few minutes. Come up with your special way to get prospects to allow you to spend time with them.

    The more you prospect the more you realize the short term hurt turns in to the long term easy. It’s going to hurt a little each day while you are prospecting, but it will get better as you constantly do it and turn it in to a long term easy.

    Go get it today! Set some appointments and prospect your heart out!

    Comment here, tweet me, or connect with me on Linkedin and let me know!

     

    Dave Brown is a senior partner and executive level coach at Southwestern Consulting and author of the upcoming book Painless Prospecting. Dave was a record breaking salesman for Southwestern Advantage, knocking on over 50,000 doors before the age of 25. He has spoken and trained over 100,000 sales professionals across the globe with Southwestern Consulting.


  • Being Decisive

    Guest Post By: Dustin Hillis

    What do people like Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Mark Cuban and Mark Zuckerberg have in common? Other than being billionaires, they all are decisive. They know what they want. They understand their priorities. They make decisions. You’d probably never hear any of them say, “let me think about it”. Billionaires don’t have time to “think about it”; it’s either a “yes” or it’s a “no”. Opportunities are lost every day from not making a decision.

    What is there to think about? Most of the time if we have to think about something, it’s because we don’t have a clear vision for what we really want. People are so focused on the day-to-day minutiae of life, that they cannot set their sights down the road on the bigger prize. It’s interesting to ask people the question “what do you want?” Most people respond with something generic like “happiness”, “make a lot of money”, “world peace”, etc. If someone asked you “what do you want?”, could you answer the question? Knowing what you want is the first step in being a decisive decision maker.

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    Considering your priorities and reorganizing priorities based on what is going to get you another step closer to your goal every day is a skill. We are all busy being busy. Nobody on the planet thinks they aren’t “busy”.

    Why do so few people exceed their goals in life? They have their priorities out of order. If your priority is to become the number one producer, become financially independent and build wealth, then why are you spending so much time checking email, reading up on current events and chit-chatting with your co-workers by the coffee machine? You should spend 90-95% of your time doing things that only you can do with your unique skills and talents. Understanding your priorities will help you to stay focused on the things that only you can do.

    All that is left now that you know what you want and you’ve got your priorities reorganized daily is to take action. Stop thinking. Pick up the phone. Book the trip. Ask the girl of your dreams out on a date.

    Stop thinking and start doing. Make decisions. Be decisive. If 90% of your decisions are right, then the 10% that are wrong will be made up from making more positive decisions.

    Dustin Hillis is the Co-founder of Southwestern Consulting. He is an expert in understanding buying, selling and management behavior styles and how to identify them and adapt to people the way they want to be communicated with. He also specializes in writing efficient and effective Customized Sales Scripts/Word Tracks. Mr Hillis consults companies on creating Compensation Plans, Recruiting Systems and Sales Strategies. Dustin is the author of the book Navigate: The Art of Not Thinking and co-author of Speaking of Success along with Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard and Jack Canfield


  • Your Forward 40

    Guest Post By: Dave Brown

    This is a technique you can use forever. This is how I’ve become a prospecting genius and what I have learned to master over the years. The Forward 40.

    When it gets time to make those calls, and you don’t know who to call, your momentum gets squashed. To keep things from falling apart, make sure you stay in a positive mindset and always allow yourself to continue to grow. It can be done with one 15 minute day-defining task!

    Focus on getting YOUR FORWARD 40.

    What is this? It’s the 40 people you make a note of to call the next day. At the end of the day, plan your day with those 40 people you need to contact or see the next day.  That list will be the first 40 people you will reach out to. Put it in a spreadsheet or write it down, so when you get up to start your day your mind is already aware of who you’ll be talking to and what it will be about.

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    Now, don’t be thinking 40 is just way too many. Say you only get to 10 of those calls and were really successful, you already have 30 for the next day on your list. There’s an upside! Say you’re even more brilliant and do get to all 40, wrap up that day by making another list of 40 people, and continue that momentum and positivity in prospecting the next day. Set yourself up for success! This is an incredible way to keep your head in the right place and get to as many people as possible.

    Your prospecting nugget for today:

    With prospecting, every day you have a choice, to either make an excuse or find a way.

    The best of us will find a way. So many excuses exist that try to keep us from finding a way. When you have your Forward 40 in gear, you will not have an excuse. Find a way, go get on that phone, get to prospecting, and go be as great as you know you can be!

    Dave Brown is a senior partner and executive level coach at Southwestern Consulting and author of the upcoming book Painless Prospecting. Dave was a record-breaking salesman for Southwestern Advantage, knocking on over 50,000 doors before the age of 25. He has spoken and trained over 100,000 sales professionals across the globe with Southwestern Consulting.


  • An Easy Fix To Help You Close More Sales

    Guest Post By: Kitty Barrow

    One of my coaching clients (we’ll call him Bob), was completely frustrated with his closing percentage. He was doing his 5-step Introduction as we had scripted it out. He was building trust and rapport a lot quicker. He was able to modify how he presented based on why they said they would buy in the Introduction.  Yet his closing percentage hadn’t increased much and he couldn’t figure out why.k1

     

    Because Bob is a great student of his game, he recorded his presentation for us to review. As we listened together, within 10 minutes we were able to figure out where he was losing the sale.

    Does this ever happen to you? Do you ever sit down with a prospect. You know they need your product/service. They say that they need your product/service. You still aren’t able to get them to move forward at the end of your conversation? Do they end it with things like, ‘let me think about it’ or ‘call me in 6 months’? When this happens, does it drive you nuts?!?

     

    Screen Shot 2015-10-26 at 8.53.25 PMWhat we discovered when listening to Bob’s recording was that he was making one of the most COMMON mistakes of all sales people.

    What is that?

    When asking them about what they needed to ‘alter or change’ about their current situation, often they would speak of their pain. Then Bob responded like most sales people. He said, ‘Ok’ and moved on to the next question. ALL HE SAID was ‘Ok’ and moved on!!  Bob didn’t dig deeper into the pain of their current situation. Bob admitted that since they spoke of their pain, then he thought they understood their pain. Plus, he is a sales person and like most sales people, Bob wants people to like him.  He thought that if he got them to speak of their pain, then they wouldn’t like him.

     

    Here are 2 important rules that you MUST understand when asking your prospect about their pain:

    1. You must get them to talk more about how this pain is negatively affecting their life until they have some emotion tied to it.  They will NOT change their situation without the emotion.
    2. You did not cause their pain! You did not cause their pain so why would you think that digging into a pain that they have would cause them to not like you?!? If anything, once you help them realize how much it is costing them to stay in that situation and you offer a solution, you are going to be their savior. Think of it like being a ‘doctor of selling’. If you go in the doctor’s office and they ask, ‘where does it hurt?’, are you upset with the doctor that they want to know all about the pain and where and when and how? Of course you aren’t!

     

    The good news is that Bob was able to start digging into the pain revealed by his prospects and his closing percentage soared! Bob was making more money in LESS time. This is just one of the cool ways that we are able to help our Top Producers Edge Coaching Clients with their Time Management.

     

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    A couple of questions that you can try the next time your prospect shares what they would like to alter/change with their current situation:

    • Mmmmmmm….. (just respond with a deep ‘mmmmmm’ letting them know that you feel their pain and they will often keep elaborating more)
    • Tell me more….
    • Is that frustrating?…..
    • Wow, what is the cost of that?….
    • How is that affecting you?….

    STAY HERE with your prospect until you are sure that they FEEL the frustration of their current situation before offering the remedy. And OF COURSE, the remedy is your product/service!

    After trying this out, please email or comment below with your results!

    Kitty Barrow is a Senior Partner and Executive Sales and Leadership Coach of Southwestern Consulting. She specializes in creating successful systems that are easily duplicated. Her motto is “Keep Things Simple for Stress-less Selling.” Kitty has trained thousands of sales professionals in companies such as Wells Fargo, MassMutual, New York Life, Xerox Global and Allstate


  • Making Client Meetings Matter

    Guest Post By: Emmie Brown

    Many account managers stay very busy meeting with their existing customers- so much so that they don’t make time to get in front of new business. This can be a costly mistake that prevents them from building their income. And, over time, as accounts slowly go away, can even cause them to have a dwindling income. Their income is most likely to dwindle if they are not making every one of those visits truly worthwhile. In other words, they are acting as professional visitors, rather than as consultative sales professionals.

    If you are not uncovering a new opportunity to quote at least 1 out of 4 of your visits, then it could mean 1 of 2 things:

    1. You are going to frequently.

    2. You are not effective enough with your visit.

    PREPARING FOR YOUR VISIT

    You can actually do fewer visits with each customer, saving you massive amounts of time, money and energy if you plan and use your time effectively on each visit. The problem is that most salespeople underprepare for the visits. Consequently, you don’t get to meet with everyone you would like to get an audience with, you spend too much of the valuable time in unproductive conversation, you forget to follow-up on key decisions, and you don’t get the results from those visits that they could. To get the most from your customer visit, do these 3 things:

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    1. Know who you are going to see. Make sure that you are not just meeting with the same decision-makers while failing to see others while you are there. There are people who are technical users of our products, conceptual decision-makers, and financial decision-makers. Make sure that you are getting in front of all of them on every visit if possible. If there are other decision-makers who are part of the organization who oversee a different department but are not yet your customer, make sure you have a plan for how you are going to get in front of them during your visit. Arrange an introduction. Make sure you know when they are in. Have a reason to see them.

    2. Know what you are going to talk to them about. As a manager of an account you have to manage many details. You have to remember when someone last ordered something and in what quantity, when you presented a quote and when you should expect to receive the purchase order, when someone told you “not right now” and when and why you should bring it back up again. . . Forgetting to remind someone that it is time to reorder, not following-up on a purchase order, not bringing new ideas to your customers’ attention will cost you a lot of money in the long run!

    3. Give value every time. On every visit, you should plan to provide your customer with something of value. And, no, we are not talking about doughnuts or cookies! The value of that you provide should be relevant to the products you sell and the service you provide to them. Bring them an article that shares valuable education. Bring them a referral for the new employee they are looking to hire. Bring them an idea of how you can save them money. Show them a new product that will help save them time. Customers will not keep you around just because you are a nice guy and you stop by every week. People want to keep vendors around that are valuable to them. It is not your customer’s job to find a need for you, it is your job to make yourself irreplaceable.

    Don’t waste valuable time, time that you could spend going after new business, driving to meet with customers without a plan. To get the most of your visit, prepare for it. Make it count.

    Emmie Brown is an executive level coach and an expert in the Psychology of Scripting. Emmie started her career with The Southwestern Company as a student intern at the University of North Carolina. She continued to work with Southwestern over the next 10 years as a top producing sales manager until joining Southwestern Consulting in 2009. Emmie has spent the last 4 years traveling the country as a professional sales trainer, executive coach and business consultant with Southwestern Consulting and the Success Starts Now! conference series. She is also the author of the audio series Talk Less, Sell More and a breakout presenter at the Success Starts Now! sales training conference.


  • After Hours Voice Mail 

    Guest Post By: Dave Brown

    This is a prospecting technique that is completely out of the blue and totally effective! This scenario might have happened to you…Your prospect all of a sudden cancels a meeting, or there’s no excitement in their voice when you talk to them, or the connection that was once there has vanished. This leaves you feeling confused, anxious and quite frankly nervous.

    Here’s a way to potentially bring them back around.  AFTER HOURS VOICEMAIL

    I will take the time once or twice a month, at 8 or 9 PM on a Thursday night, and leave encouraging, loving voicemails to these client’s/prospect’s phones. All sorts of prospects! Ones I’ve made appointments with, the people I can’t reach, ones that I want to speak with, those that I’ve been trying to get a hold of through my prospecting efforts, etc. In the voicemail I’ll talk about how excited I am to be working with them, let them know I’m honored that they are in my life and build them up in their role at their company.

    phone_edited Example…“Hey John, this is Dave Brown it’s a little after 8:30 pm here. I just wanted to reach out and tell you how much I appreciate you and how hard you work for your team. Every time we talk you inspire me to be better at what I do because of the great example you set. I’m excited about working with you and your group soon. This will be one of the highlights of the year! Take care, John, I’ll talk to you soon.”

    Leave that voicemail in a simple, soft tone. It’s late at night! They will hear that message first thing when they get to the office and should appreciate your genuine compliments and efforts after normal work hours. Try it, I’ve loved the deeper connections it’s created for me over the years with my prospects.

    When you do, please let me know how it has worked for you via Twitter @davebrown_SWC or LinkedIn. Spread the love!

     

    Dave Brown is a senior partner and executive level coach at Southwestern Consulting and author of the upcoming book Painless Prospecting. Dave was a record breaking salesman for Southwestern Advantage, knocking on over 50,000 doors before the age of 25. He has spoken and trained over 100,000 sales professionals across the globe with Southwestern Consulting.


  • Transcending Call Reluctance by Living On Purpose 

    Guest Post By: Steve Reiner

    Your heart starts beating faster; you’re sweating; you can actually feel your blood pressure rising. If somebody was observing you, they might think you’re about to start your first day of Navy Seal BUD/S Training by the way you’re acting. But for a lot of us it’s much worse than that. No it doesn’t entail dodging bullets and jumping into a freezing cold ocean. Rather, it involves picking up the phone and dialing up prospective clients. Some people refer to it as prospecting. Others call it the phone approach. Most agree it’s the most stressful part of their job. But why is that? Why do so many sales professionals grapple daily with call reluctance?

    It’s the fear of rejection; the fear of failure; the fear of not being perfect; the fear of not being successful. Whichever fear you can relate to the most, it can become a very emotional experience which can literally stop you in your tracks from doing the very thing you need to do make you successful. So what are you going to do about?

    Motivational speakers will tell you not to let your emotions determine your actions but rather make your actions dictate your emotions. So we hear things like, “Act enthusiastic and become enthusiastic; let your motion create your emotion; fake it until you make it; do it scared and face your fears.” So you force your way onto the phone, praying the person on the other end does not recognize your anxiety, hoping that you experience some level of success so that you can get the momentum going, making dialing easier and less painful. But there’s a problem.

    The next morning you’re back to square one having to do it all over again. The momentum you picked up yesterday doesn’t necessarily carry over to today and once again you find yourself having to push through the resistance, face your fears and act enthusiastic in order to become enthusiastic. Pretty soon you start waking up to the question, “Is all this stress really worth it?” You’re tired of being on the rollercoaster; the mental effort is exhausting; the progress seems short lived and not sustainable; your effort doesn’t feel authentic and everything feels forced. But it doesn’t have to be and the good news is it’s not about acting differently – it’s about thinking differently.

    It’s about operating out of your purpose rather than your emotion. When you operate out of your emotion, you’re condemned to a rollercoaster life of highs and lows, depending on how you feel about a situation in the given moment. Your feelings come from your thoughts and if you’re thinking about how unpleasant it’s going to be to get on the phone than naturally you’re going to feel scared, anxious and stressed and your actions are going to follow suit. However when you learn to operate out of your purpose, everything changes. Now your actions become seamless and sustainable; with your purpose triggering your actions, as you become inspired, your actions become elevated; as you become fearless, your actions become energized. When our actions come out of our purpose, we’re no longer having to survive our circumstances but we’re able to thrive through them. Rather than having to deal with adversity, we’re able to embrace it. Rather than having to get through it, we’re able to transcend it. But how is this possible and what exactly does it mean to operate out of our purpose?

    Your purpose is the cause for how you live your life. It’s the belief for why you do everything. Unfortunately most people have never taken the time to truly identify their purpose and therefore they often feel like they’re running on a treadmill; just doing everything they can to keep their head above water. However when we have a compelling purpose for why we exist, now all of a sudden we have an extra bounce in our step; we become inspired to work towards a cause the fuels us, that empowers us, that equips us to keep our perspective, no matter what the circumstances.

     

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    Now if you listen to different trainers you’ll hear some say there is no right or wrong purpose; it’s whatever inspires you for how you desire to live your life. After being a producing coach for over 25 years, however, and experiencing what truly inspires people to live with great energy, passion and significance, I’ve come to conclude that if your purpose is not about serving others, then it’s a weak and shallow purpose that in the end will not truly empower you with the tools and motivation to live out an inspired life. Of course that’s just my humble opinion. So what does this life of purpose look like?

    My purpose is to equip people to be fearless, calling out greatness in everybody I meet. The reason this purpose means so much to me is because I used to live in fear for the first 21 years of my life afraid to ever step out of my comfort zone and do anything to really stretch me and as a result, I felt like I was just treading water, stagnant, scared, depressed, anxious and very unfulfilled. Thank God I met somebody in college who saw something in me that I did not see in myself. It was the first time somebody saw me not for who I was but for who I could become. It was the first time I ever had anybody who really believed in me. He helped me get on a trajectory in which I was pushing through my comfort zone, transcending my fears and accomplishing things I never dreamed possible. It was through this experience where I developed the purpose to equip people to be fearless, calling out greatness in everybody I meet. The reason this purpose means so much to me is because I think about where my life would be now if I had not had that role model. Without my purpose as my GPS for how to live my life, it would be very easy to revert back to my old ways: scared, depressed, anxious and unfulfilled. Instead, my purpose causes me to step up my game, to be the man I desire to be, to live out a cause that’s bigger than myself. So how does one’s purpose help to transcend call reluctance?

    When your purpose, for example, is to be a positive difference maker, you’re no longer thinking, “I hope I don’t get rejected; I hope I don’t fail; I hope I make this sale.” These thoughts come out of a self-centered focus in which it’s no wonder you’re fearful to get on the phone because you’re drawing your identify from a scary place – what people think about you; you’re trying to gain your confidence from your production – something you have no control over. When your emotions are driving your behavior and you’re focused on yourself and trying to control something you have no control over, it’s no wonder why we have call reluctance. However, when your purpose is to build others, instead of saying, “I hope I don’t get rejected,” you’re saying, “I can’t wait to positively impact this next person.” Rather than saying, “I hope I make this sale,” you’re saying, “I can’t wait to provide value to him.” Instead of saying, “I hope I don’t fail, you’re saying, “I can’t wait to bring the thunder and make a difference in his life!” With your purpose guiding you, rather than your emotions, instead of saying “I’m nervous to get on the phone” which causes you to avoid it like the plague, you’re instead saying, “I’m fearless on the phone because of the service I provide” which triggers you to dive on the phone with passion, energy and excitement. But is this too good to be true?

    After coaching hundreds of clients over the years, I’ve witnessed people who let their emotions drive their behavior and dread prospecting transform into people who became inspired with a compelling purpose who learned to actually enjoy prospecting. But even beyond that, I’ve experienced clients who lived out of their emotions who were plagued by stress and knee-jerk reactions who, once armed with a great purpose, began to not only work with more passion but to live with more passion as they focused on a cause bigger than themselves.

     

    Steve Reiner, a partner at Southwestern Consulting and 2013 Coach of the year, is a Peak Performance Coach with over 24 years as a producing sales leader.  He is an expert at helping people remove the emotional hurdles that prevent them from excelling in business and in life.