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Fuel Your Fire

Guest Post By: Rory Vaden

It’s easy to look at other people’s success and be jealous.

Sometimes it’s not even envy that shows up, but more of just frustration with your own situation or your own progress. Because you see where they are and you know that you’re capable of the same thing.

But that gap of dissatisfaction doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It can be incredibly compelling and highly motivating for you on your journey.

You just have to remember two things:

First, other people haven’t taken the same route as you have to get where they are. They may have been more focused, had different mentorship, more specific training, or just plain started earlier than you did. And you can’t compare your chapter 3 to someone else’s chapter 9. Instead, you can gain perspective by evaluating the “trajectory” that you’re on.

Don’t compare where you are today to someone else’s yesterday. Think about where the course you’re currently on is going to lead you. Very often you will find that if you are making good choices now, that you are inevitably headed toward the same eventual destination.

Secondly, and more importantly, you have to quickly realize that there is no benefit in wallowing in what you do not have.

It brings no value to your life to think about what you have not yet accomplished.

And it does nothing to speed up your progress by looking at what others have achieved that you haven’t yet.


It drives you and inspires you to do the only thing you can do: work.

As soon as you realize there’s more you want to accomplish, then you should immediately activate.

You go to work.

You decide that you’re not ok with that gap.

You decide that it’s not acceptable for you not to achieve those same things with your life.

And you decide that you will find a way to do whatever it takes to accomplish those achievements that you want.

It’s not about what other people have that you don’t.

It’s about seeing other people’s accomplishments that you believe are meant to be possible for your own life too.

And when you see them, you feel that gap. You feel that dissatisfaction. You feel that space that you were meant to fill.

You don’t get jealous. You don’t get envious.

You simply get to work.

Self-Discipline Strategist Rory Vaden’s book Take the Stairs is a #1 Wall St Journal, #1 USA Today, and #2 New York Times bestseller. As an award-winning entrepreneur and business leader, Rory Co-Founded Southwestern Consulting™, a multi-million dollar global consulting practice that helps clients in more than 27 countries drive educated decisions with relevant data.

Additionally, as the founder of the Center for the Study of Self-Discipline (CSSD), his insights on improving self-discipline, overcoming procrastination and enhancing productivity have been featured on Fox and Friends, Oprah radio, CNN and in Fast Company, Forbes, Inc and Success Magazine.